Relationship Talks: Have you experienced a ‘Breakup’ or ‘Ghosting?’
When things go wrong in any relationship, people no longer share the same amount of respect, love, and interest for each other. It’s a saturation point in any relationship; you must decide whether to sit and fix it or to part ways on respectable terms.
The Sad Part!
However, some people choose to disappear from their partner by blocking their calls, social media and leaving the place like they never met them, which only pushes them into absolute chaos and a dilemma, which is called "ghosting."
A breakup or ghosting may appear natural, depending on the circumstances and context. Both have positive and negative aspects.
What’s your take?
There is less animosity and hostility when two people part ways on respectable terms by accepting things.
A good breakup can make the other person feel guilt-free and help him
move on.
Breakup
On the other side, for people who are unable to handle rejection, breakups can be terribly painful. When the partners place the blame for the problems that occurred and make each other feel guilty, they become much more unpleasant.
Those who can't bear the breakup try to ghost. The people who choose to ghost believe that discussing a breakup with their partner will exacerbate the situation. As a result, they make the decision to abandon them.
Ghosting
In the other case, the people who don’t want to hurt the others' feelings by staying with them choose to ghost.
According to a study, there are these are the main reasons for ghosting in dating
– Being disrespectful to the other person
– Looking for new sexual relationships
A breakup involves both individuals, whereas in ghosting, only one person makes the decision. Ghosting can have profound effects on the other person.
Breakup vs Ghosting
Ghosting victims may suffer from depression, paranoia, and low self-esteem, but most importantly, they will lose trust in people. The victim is likely to harbor resentment toward her or his partner, who abandoned him or her without saying anything.
In a mutual breakup, both individuals will delete each other’s private photos and data, but in ghosting, there’s no place for this, which is extremely alarming for the victim.
As your well wishers, "YouSay" advises you to try to end your relationship on respectable terms, but when things in
a relationship get immensely toxic, then consider ghosting.
Our Advice
But keep in mind that ghosting someone you've known for a long time can hurt them more than anything else. For a moment, be in their shoes and think about the pain they may go through.
The victims of the ghosting must be mentally strong and try to be with the people who love them, and not fall into the perception that everyone is like the one who ghosted them.